GLAAD called the advice columnist’s post on bisexuality
This part infuriates me:
"Bisexual activists have been extremely critical of Slate’s running of the post, though there has been no formal response from Slate despite “multiple inquiries” and the only response GLAAD received was from Prudence herself thanking GLAAD for their note.”
A thank you note? Do they think they can patch this over with a thank you note? A thank you note is what you send your elderly great aunt when she buys you an ugly Christmas sweater, not what you say when civil rights groups point out your flagrantly offensive rhetoric! What the hell Slate?
Yoffe owes the bisexual letter writer and the bisexual community an apology. She needs to make a commitment to doing some kind of bisexual cultural competency training with someone — be it GLAAD or BiNet or BRC. Or she needs to stop giving bisexual people her so-called “advice”.
And where the hell is the Outward (Slate’s LGBT section) staff on this? It is happening on their site on their watch and you’d never know it to look at their section. Are they going to hold their co-workers accountable to write fairly and accurately about the B in LGBT, or does Outward only exist to shove queer content into a little ghetto so Slate can try to sell us a Lexus?
Emily Yoffe is having a live chat on September 2 and you can submit questions in advance here: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2014/08/dear_prudence_live_chat_for_sept_2_2014.html
Let’s flood it until she has to address this.
Indeed…let’s flood it with questions and with well thought out statements. A whole bunch of folks going into this telling her she’s biphobic without explaining exactly what they mean gives her too much opportunity to say “those bisexual people were mean so I’m not going to address this.”
So, my suggestions are to point out specific bits in her article that were particularly problematic. Explain that “thanking GLAAD for their note” is an entirely unacceptable response. And ask her when and how she’ll be addressing and apologising for the biphobia in her article.
I think it’s far more effective to simply give her personal stories. She is the kind of person who thinks she’s always right. If people flood her with demands for apology and criticism of her words and actions, she’ll spend most of her mental energy on coming up with justifications and excuses and reasons why what she said isn’t as bad as all these over-reacting, pushy, rude, over-sensitive people are making it out to be.
However, telling her how it feels to be a bisexual person who is in the closet, and the psychological damage it does to yourself, could help her see.
Telling her how it feels when a published article tells you that bisexuality isn’t actually your identity and who you ARE, it’s just something sexually kinky you might choose to do, could help her see.
Telling her what it was like when you were a teenager looking around and seeing everyone treating bisexuality as something that disappears the moment someone is in a relationship, and therefore understanding that you HAVE to figure out whether you’re gay or straight because those are the only two valid orientations, and thinking that you must be broken and psychotic if you can’t figure out which you are, could help her see.
Telling her what it’s like to be in the closet could help her see.
Telling her what it’s like to be told that you have to live a lie and pretend to be something that you’re not, could help her see.
Telling her what it’s like to be forced into a closet by social pressure just like hers, having to be constantly vigilant in your pretend identity, ever diligently censoring your words always in fear that you’ll react to a celebrity on TV along with your straight friends and then react to another celebrity along with your gay friends and then you’ll be destroyed and ostracized. Could help her see.
Let’s not put her on the defensive.
Let’s show her as vibrantly as possible how exactly what she said actually affects real people.
Another good point, I think.