also please stop acting like bi people wanting a character to be bi instead of gay because they’ve had past relationships with another gender is so awful and homophobic. yes, irl people do have relationships with other genders before they come out, that’s fine, but a good deal of the time when FICTIONAL CHARACTERS do this, it’s an act of bi erasure by biphobic writers and that needs to be acknowledged too.and maybe, idk, bi people relate to that character specifically BECAUSE of their history w/ different-gender relationships and we want to be represented too?? wow incredible who would have thought
no one is saying that character can’t be gay, i’d rather any character be gay than straight, but if you shoot down any suggestions of that character being bisexual bc you think it’s homophobic for them NOT to be gay or that they’re ~validating the male gaze~ or whatever bullshit, please go away and rethink ur life choices
Anonymous asked: hey! just wanted to let you know that there's a mistake in your definition of demiromantic. it says "only experiences sexual attraction after a bond is formed with someone" instead of "only experiences romantic attraction after a bond is formed with someone"
Thanks for letting us know! Yeah, it was definitely a typo. Just fixed it :)
Bi-Trans Activist in answer to yet another self-styled "LGBT" group insisting that Gay Men and Lesbian Women have both the right to dictate what it means to be Bisexual and the right to disregard what the actual Bisexual Community historically says it is. (via bialogue-group)
Credit where credit is due! I do believe it was nooffswitch!
#BiTalks Topic #5: Bisexuality & Gender
All our identities and qualities combine and interact to make us who we are. They’re important when we interact with other people and communities we’re part of. One of the identities that interact with bisexuality is gender - your own and other people’s.
Even though gender and sexual orientation don’t necessarily influence each other, for some people they’re somehow related. How do you experience your gender in relation to your bisexuality? Has figuring one of them out prompted you to question the other?
People of various genders have different experiences in the bisexual community. The bisexual community (on tumblr at least) seems to be very welcoming to people of all genders. How do you feel about your gender identity in the bisexual community compared to anywhere else? Do you feel that people who share both your sexuality and gender create a safer space for you? What do you feel is important to know about your and other people’s gender and bisexuality?
We want to hear from all of you! Your thoughts and musings, short anecdotes and long stories, you can talk as much or as little as you like. This week is about gender and bisexuality!
This topic will be open for one week, ending on October 25th.
How this works:
- Create a new post about this topic, tag it #bitalks FIRST (after the 5th tag, it won’t show up in the tag)
- We will reblog the posts (except biphobic stuff if that arises), and quality commentary/responses as well (sometimes we miss stuff, so if you want to make sure we reblog your commentary, shoot us a message with the link to it)!
- We will create a masterpost when this topic closes (October 25) and credit to tumblr usernames unless otherwise noted in your post.
- Please tag trigger warnings as necessary.
Pro tip: cis men and women also have genders!
- Cis women - it would be really great if you could write about how your cis female identity figures into your bisexuality (oppression and privilege).
- Cis men - great fucking opportunity to think about cis male privilege, masculinity and how it intersects with bisexuality, without being shitty about it! Give it a try :D
You can read my post for this topic on my personal blog, and please signal boost and participate.
Call For Submissions From Chubby/Fat Trans People
Hey all! Please submit your photo, writing, etc. posts to Chubby Tubby Trans HERE.
This is a place where chubby and fat trans people of all varieties and expressions (including but not limited to agender, bigender, demigirl, demiguy, genderfluid, genderfuck, genderqueer, neutrois, non-binary, pangender, third gender, trigender, transgender, transsexual, mtf, ftm, etc.) can submit or just be in awe of our beautiful selves!
Our bodies are wondrous and amazing. So let’s shout it out loud or you can quietly view it behind your computer screen.
It is important to have a place where our chubby and fat trans (and other non-cis identified) bodies are celebrated for the beauty they hold. Let’s show each other how amazing we are! Sometimes even I need a reminder.
((If you are not going to submit, please boost this so that other people can view this blog. It is helpful for me, it could be helpful for someone else!))
Anonymous asked: demisexual is 'my anaconda might once it gets to know you better' and grey is 'my anaconda doesnt always but sometimes it does' thats really all you need to know tbh
i don’t know who you are but i love you